Your NEEDS, or motivators are inborn in you, and they are what drives you. What you NEED in your life to feel satisfied, alive, energized and enthused. Even if you don’t know it; you are always seeking fulfillment of these needs. When these needs are not being met you feel unsatisfied, frustrated, depressed. Often it is difficult to even put a finger on what the problem is…you think “I have a good life. Why am I not happy?

According to Dr. Jose Stevens, author of The Michael Handbook, there are 9 basic needs: Security, Expansion, Acceptance, Adventure, Power, Communion, Freedom, Expression and Exchange.

Knowing which of these intrinsic needs motivates you can make an enormous difference in your sense of satisfaction, happiness and even your health. During my program 3 Keys to Discover and Live Your Authentic Purpose!™ we delve deep into these needs and identify not only what they are, but all the ways they have been affecting your life!  Career choices, hobbies, life goals, relationships are all affected.

Relationships are a great example. Choosing partners that fulfill our deepest needs and whose needs we fulfill, will be the most intimate, happy of relationships. This can come about by serendipity – the meeting of soul mates who immediately recognize each other. You’ve read about or know relationships like this that are amazing from the beginning to the end. But all of us can have this!

It starts with knowing what drives you and what drives the person you are with.  Often recognizing the inner differences can open up and allow the love to bloom stronger and more powerfully.

Stepping into who you are and not who others think you should be, is a huge step.

Career, hobby,or  just life in general; discover your needs and dig deep. You too can be like Dineen, one of my clients who shares her experience…

“Laurie, Thanks for your help today! As always, you hit it on the head and things really seemed to come together and make more sense to me.

Woman, you are *amazing.* I don’t know how you do it, but you truly are a transformational expert. You gave me so much clarity. I wanted you to know and to see how much you have helped me.

I AM ready to get out there and do what I love to do! ”

~Dinneen Diette, Dinneen Speaks.com 

      Laurie A. Polinski,

Spiritual Guide and Life Purpose Coach

Awaken Your Potential; Dream Larger; Take Your Next Steps

Direct:  630-515-1722       Cell:  630-881-6237

www.SpinningGoldLifeCoaching.com

]]> http://spinninggoldmarketing.com/find-happiness-discover-what-motivates-you/feed/ 0 http://spinninggoldmarketing.com/let-your-inner-seeds-of-brilliance-bloom/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=let-your-inner-seeds-of-brilliance-bloom http://spinninggoldmarketing.com/let-your-inner-seeds-of-brilliance-bloom/#comments Tue, 01 May 2012 21:49:09 +0000 admin http://spinninggoldmarketing.com/?p=5202 I had a coaching call with a client last night who I’d only been working with for a couple of sessions. She is starting to see the importance and the meaning of self-discovery and how that will take her to a dream that she has had for a very long time.

Last night, she said, Imagine if everyone were living with knowing this for themselves – What an amazing and happy world we would have?!?

She, like 84% of adults, lived her life based on a “False-self”.

This false self comes from others telling you who you are, what you should do and how they believe you should behave. Don Miguel Ruez, author of the Four Agreements, calls this the Mitote. The village of inner voices that shouts inside your head every time you make decisions. Most of these developed before you were 7 years old.

Do you stand in the grocery store and begin to reach for a cake only to hear an inner voice saying “don’t eat that – your too fat—you always were the greedy one…” voices of parents, sisters, brothers, friends, teachers, television, perhaps that neighbor you only met once.  The voices can also be positive but just as effective in molding our behavior.  “You are the oldest… now, what do you really want to do…She’s going to be a lawyer, I just know it…of course you like blue”

The list is endless but the messages stay with us.

Do you have an inner dream or longing? Does it seem as farfetched as a Disney fairy tale? No need for a knight to recue you. It’s time for you to spring up and to let your inner seeds of brilliance bloom!

Limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging habits, and old messages have been stored in your subconscious mind since you were a very young child. It is NOW time to release those so that you can freely and easily move forward – share your unique gifts in a bigger, more satisfying way.

Another of my clients on a recent coaching call, said, “I’m there!  I’m happy!  I feel really good,

I’m really clear about what I want and what makes me happy.  I feel clear and confident.”

Start by taking a look at unearthing the seeds of magic that have long been kept buried, waiting for you to uncover them.  Do you remember what you wanted to do as a child, the personality traits you displayed? Have they changed? Are you happy with the changes? Take a few quiet moments and talk with your inner child.  If you are having trouble remembering or identifying those inner seeds/dreams, I have tools to unearth them (no matter how deep).

I am moving forward by unlocking my inner dreams and growing my true brilliance.

For those of you who don’t know much about me, I am, Laurie Polinski, the founder of Spinning Gold Life Coaching and the creator of the Clarity, Purpose & Prosperity System. I created the Clarity, Purpose and Prosperity System after I had gone through a deep and meaningful transformation. Not a transformation INTO Being something – but a transformation BACK TO Who I really am.

I unearthed my True Self. I realized that the root of all of the challenges in my life, was the fact that I was living my life based on a very false reality. A reality created out of my trying to be good enough or my trying to please others.

Sound familiar? Are you still in this place? Do you still feel squelched, stressed or depressed?

My trying to fit into a mold of what others would find acceptable was the catalyst to being completely disconnected from the strong, creative, wonderful person I was inside.

In trying to be something else; in trying to chase an image of perfection I was completely unable to maximize my own strengths and qualities. I was unable to ever feel a sense of peace or satisfaction. I was unable to truly be as effective as I could be in any area of my life.

Once I discovered that there really was another part of me, a part that had long been forgotten. A part that felt like home: that felt real, authentic and safe; I was able to change my view of  who I should be. Even more, I changed my vision of what was possible for me.

From this place I recognized my gifts and passions were for helping others to find their hidden depths.  I created the Clarity, Purpose and Prosperity System for you.  To help you get really clear about who you are and what is possible for you.

You will find and know your purpose.  You came here with bigger dreams and capabilities.  You just need a hand discovering where they are buried. They are lying deep inside like seeds. Together we can dig down, clear the: shoulds” and “oughts” away to find your perfection.

When you get to this place: The magic of life – Begins to flow.

I live my life in the magic of truth. I welcome the good things that flow to me.

Some of my clients have told me that they feel like they should be doing more. They don’t quite know what that is or how to find it But they are ready to find it.

Are you feeling this way?

There is an answer! There is a way out!

Discovering and living your authentic purpose is the Secret to Success in all areas of your life.  So why is it so difficult?  Why is discovering the unique brilliance within you like trying to catch a fish with your bare hands? You can see it, and almost grasp it but it slips through time and again.

The reason is that we have been conditioned to see ourselves in a certain light.  You are the pretty one…the corporate exec…the mom…the middle child…the funny one… Try writing it out what is your list? Who does everyone think you are. Don’t worry about if it’s true or not.

Take a pen and paper.  Write down the primary people in your life on every few lines (leaving space between) No go back and write who you think they see you as.

At the end look at the list.

Do you feel validated? Or are you reading the labels and going that’ not me or yes, but…

Do the labels make you feel angry, distressed or disgusted? Take a  deep belly breath. It’s okay, this is your life and you can change it.  You do not have to be limited by these beliefs.

You are beginning to discover a key! A key to your uniqueness. My clients are just like you. The difference is they, one day, woke up and realized that they couldn’t shed these labels alone. That they needed guidance, support and the gifts that I could give them. Call me I can melt those limiting beliefs in 10 min – 90 min processes. You will be amazed.

I am more than people think I am!

Wonderful words, but where do you start? Many of my clients start in this place having no idea where their bliss is. Perhaps this describes you…. you have a desire for deeper, more meaningful relationships,… are ready to discover greater opportunities and possibilities…you want to find your bliss… your inner dance.

JoAnn wondered this very thing. “I started working with Laurie when I had reached a crossroads in my life. I was extremely unhappy with where I was in my life, but unsure of how to get myself unstuck and out of the firmly entrenched rut I was in and move myself forward.”

The first step to moving forward and to discovering your inner dance is to look at the patterns in your life. There are continual messages from your childhood; that keep running through your mind. Whispers of I can’t do that, or I am not good enough. They form blocks that stop you from trying, from growing and from finding your bliss.

One technique I use is to take a paper and pen. Write down one of your heart felt desires. Now write down as many blocks to this as you can think of.

I call these Limiting Beliefs and Patterns.  These must be looked at and destroyed in order for you to break free!!         

Next, change to your non-dominant hand. Using that one, write down your desire and what is blocking it. Like most people, you probably found that using your non-dominant hand was difficult. Focusing on the writing instead of the thinking usually yields new results. Did you find new blocks? Ones you hadn’t even realized were lurking inside you?

This is just the first step to unearthing the blockages to your bliss – Your inner dance. But, it can be a powerful one.

Now you are on the way to discovering all the amazing talents that have been hiding inside. Just like a dance center has a dance instructor, it may take someone else to help you to discover these inner gifts.

My gift is unearthing your unique purpose, helping you to rediscover what drives your passions, and to feel the dance deep inside your soul.  This is what I tapped into for JoAnn.

“ Laurie never gave up on me, even when I did and without her belief in me, her encouragement and her knack of knowing just what to say, I wouldn’t be where I am today.”    JoAnn Concialdi is the Founder, Dancing Spirit Healing.

JoAnn has found her inner dance. You are ready to discover yours. It’s all about allowing yourself to dance. Reaching deep, breaking free and discovering your bliss. When you do your soul will be moving freely to its own joyful rhythm and the celebration of you will become a magnet attracting all the things you want in life.  You will be ready to take the stage and to do the dance!

I dance to the rhythm of my own inner bliss

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Laurie Polinski,  is known as a “connector,” always finding ways to make things happen and bringing new perspectives to familiar challenges.  “Let’s get started!” is one of her mantras.

Visit www.spinninggoldlifecoaching.com or call Laurie at 630-515-1722.

Tapping in to that moment of true heartfelt joy – he rediscovered life. He could play –he could fly and he could crow. An out loud burst of wild abandon and sheer joy.

What is your Happy Thought?

What is the one moment (most of us have several) of pure un-abandoned peace or pleasure.

You will know it because the moment you think of it a smile radiates through you. Starting in your heart; vibrating through your body; turning up your lips and sending pleasure synapses firing throughout your brain.  You radiate – others can see the light.  For a moment everything is right and good in the world. You have found your Inner Perfection.

Tap in – tap in to your heart.  Find that moment and nurture it. Bring it out in difficult times and hold it.  Settle into it and make it a part of you. Play with it. Laugh – Laugh out loud, its okay!!  Your heart is your second brain. It tells you when things are right for you. It tells you when to watch out. And it tells you that you are perfect. You just need a reminder now and then. The reminder, the trigger to become awash in love and strength, is your Happy Thought.

As, I often say God doesn’t make no junk.   The place to begin your personal journey is to unearth your unique brilliance, your passions and your soul’s purpose and fully express your nature, your strengths and unique gifts – out loud!

Any time worries or doubts come. Search your heart for your Happy Thought.  Become a Peter Pan and crow!

Your Essential Self is confident, assured and strong in the knowledge that who you are is perfect.

Laurie Polinski,  is known as a “connector,” always finding ways to make things happen and bringing new perspectives to familiar challenges.  “Let’s get started!” is one of her mantras.

Follow your heart and get started visit www.spinninggoldlifecoaching.com or call Laurie at 630-515-1722.

We all have cares, stresses and problems. It’s a natural part of life. It is how you manage these challenges that determines your success.  Have you ever met a person who seems to have difficult circumstances.  Perhaps someone is chronically ill or is disfigured; perhaps someone has lost everything they held dear; perhaps they have lived in poverty or amid war.  Yet they appear content, perhaps even happy. Somehow they manage to still see the beauty in life and to meet it with a smile.

How can they do this? The answer is simple. They focus on the positive. They find something to smile about in every moment.  And by finding that positive they charge their hearts and their hearts charge their mind — creating the infinite loop of positive loving energy that effects everyone and everything around them.

You can be this radiating glow. You can begin to shift your own thinking and find joy in every day.

First, put your entire focus on anticipating that whatever you’re concerned about will go well. Your positive expectations about your situation will steer it in the desired direction.

Second, look for the positive.   Every day remind yourself of ten positive things.  They can be little – your cup of coffee was hot. Your child ate all of his dinner.  It doesn’t matter how small because you will have begun to create the positive flow. It will naturally begin to surge and effect every thing you do.

Third, write these positives down.  Holding positive or negative expectations takes the same amount of time and effort. Stop using your journal to vent and turn it into a gratitude journal.  List everything that you are grateful for.

The outcome of your current situation is guaranteed to be good, yet your experience of the process of getting to that point is influenced by what you think will happen.

If you foresee problems, you’ll come across them along the way; on the other hand, if you anticipate harmony, then that’ what you’ll experience. This is the Universal Law of Attraction. Either way, everything is going to turn out just fine – but which path would you prefer to take? Your expectations set your course.

Use this affirmation to stay on course:

“I Do not give in to fears –  I deliver them to the angels.  I know that by doing this the outcomes will be positive”

Because of fear.

Fear of the unforeseen consequences of either choice.  Remember the time honored exercise in trust? Falling backwards into the arms of a partner.  There is that moment of doubt. The mind begins to focus on this. Thoughts swirl the fears and uncertainties; adding discomfort, distrust and disbelief.

But when you stop yourself, listen to your internal guidance and trust…

You relax and are safe.

There may be bumps and challenges but you are on your heart guided path.

Listen to the feelings of rightness, warmth and joy that lead to the correct path, and listen to the feelings of tightness that tell you a path is wrong for you.  Feel and follow these internal nudges.

Your heart will take you to opportunities and synchronicities that lead you to higher and higher potential.  The right people, opportunities and supports will appear.

Allow yourself to relax back and fall.  Allow yourself to follow your heart.

“It is our responsibility on this earth to bloom with full potential.  Any reassurance and guidance towards your goals pushes you further by providing an extra motivation. Laurie has provided that extra confirmation too, as a sign of nature, to go ahead and live my life to the fullest, doing what I am supposed to do and being what I am.” ~ Peaceful regards  Dr. Indu Arora

It is said that your 6^th sense, or your intuition is 100% accurate all the time.  They say that because it is an extension of your higher self or God.

Believe that the greatest gift  you have been given, the greatest skill you can ever develop is the unwavering decision to commit  your  full energy to unearthing your  true self and allowing your heart to prevail and pervade through every part of your  life.

Use this affirmation:

“I follow my heart, trusting the messages I receive from God and my Higher Self.”

Laurie Polinski,  is known as a “connector,” always finding ways to make things happen and bringing new perspectives to familiar challenges.  “Let’s get started!” is one of her mantras.

Follow your heart and get started.

Visit www.spinninggoldlifecoaching.com or call Laurie at 630-515-1722.

In our hearts we already know the directions we need to take.  Play with it for a moment. Remember a wonderful time in your life, feel the joy. Re-live the moments. If you need a start: picture a sleeping baby, remember cuddling your pet, or looking in to the eyes of a loved one.

Where do you feel the experience in your body? Your heart.

When you are on the right path, making the right choices your heart will feel warm and full.  Relax into it and allow the knowledge to flow into you.  Use your heart as an inner guide; it is a clear message from your higher power.

Your inner self is wise beyond limits.  When you learn to tap into your inner Guidance, you are tapped into the universal source which has access to all knowledge.  Feel the messages from your higher self, higher power, God.

People who appear to be most brilliant are those who listen to their inner wisdom and put it into action.  They have known in their hearts what is right and listened.

Do you find this difficult? I often work with clients who have to unlearn listening to their head and learn instead to feel their heart messages.  Creating that light for them is my heart’s work.

One first step is a simple affirmation:

“I trust my inner knowing, I hold positive expectations about the outcome of the changes that I’m making in my life right now.  It is safe for me to act on my inner wisdom.”

Laurie Polinski,  is known as a “connector,” always finding ways to make things happen and bringing new perspectives to familiar challenges.  “Let’s get started!” is one of her mantras.

Follow your heart and get started visit www.spinninggoldlifecoaching.com or call Laurie at 630-515-1722.

Have you ever stopped to realize that you created your life to be exactly the way it is today?  Consciously or subconsciously, the choices, decisions, beliefs, and actions you took (or didn’t take) resulted in what you have in your life at this very moment. 

“But,” you may be saying, “my life isn’t exactly as I would like it to be.”

Where you are and what you have in your life today is no accident.  Your life is the result of all of the decisions you have ever made (or chose not to make) every moment, every day of your life. 

This is powerful news!  Because, it’s a tremendous testimonial as to the amazingly creative person that you already are!  This means that you have the power to create the life you really want for yourself.

The Power of a Decision:  The first step to actually achieving your goals is to make the decision to do so!  Making the decision to have what you really want must be a real and conscious choice, not simply a wish. 

“To get new results you must take new actions and all actions are fathered by a decision.”  Tony Robins

  Making a Decision:  Your decision must be powerful enough to make the difference you want to see in your life.  This is where many people get stuck, because making a decision to have or create different things in your life most likely means that you are going to have to leave the safety of your current comfort zone.  (I will be writing a lot more about the comfort zone in upcoming articles because this is a biggie, yet it doesn’t have to be as difficult or frightening as it may seem!) 

Here are 5 Keys to help you make powerful decisions that can change your life and help you have exactly what you DO want:

1. Ask yourself what you really and truly want.  This means that you must expand your thinking beyond what you currently think you can have.
2. Decide and commit to making it happen.  Ask yourself, “What decision can I make right now that will support my commitment to having what I want?”
3. Make a clear and concise choice to have what you want and deserve.  You must be clear about what you want and how you are going to get it. 
4. Picture where you will be and what it will look like when you have reached your goals.  Really let yourself imagine and feel what it feels like to be in the experience of what you want for yourself.
5. Take responsibility for your dreams.  It’s easy to point fingers or blame something or someone else for what shows up in our lives.  Don’t give your creative power away by imagining yourself in a victim role when it comes to making choices and decisions that impact your life and your dreams.

  Once you determine your direction, you must be committed to taking the actions that match that decision in order to get it.  When you decide and commit, your subconscious mind will work to help you get exactly what you say you want.  That’s where the phrase, “Be careful what you ask for!” comes from.  The subconscious mind is more powerful than most of us had ever been were aware of in the past.  More and more science and research is showing us the amazing power of our subconscious mind.  (I also plan to write more about that in future articles because this is powerful and fascinating!)

  You have created many miracles in your life, even those you don’t necessarily like.  Setting clear goals and taking responsibility for making conscious choices and decisions that are aligned with those goals is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself and those who you influence.

Make the decision to start now.

“Every choice and decision leads us closer to, or farther way from, what we want.” 

Spinning Gold